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So it starts

Posted 1st September 2009 at 02:42 PM by theZee
Updated 1st September 2009 at 09:07 PM by theZee

Hi all,

Some of you might know that I recently became a dad and ever since then I've been meaning to start a rolling blog to record this adventure. I think I'm doing this more for my benefit rather than anything else and I'm hoping I can stick with it so that later on I can look back and read through the blogs and see just how much things have changed.

So this is seven week later and this is my first blog. It's amazing to think that only a very short while ago my little Bridgette arrived into this world - thankfully perfectly healthy and perfectly perfect! Since then it's been interesting to say the least, sleepless nights, lots of poo and wee feature prominently during this time.

Looking back over the past weeks, I think I've identified a number of stages that I went through. Like the "Scared Out of my Mind" stage, which went along the lines of OMG!! there's this extremely fragile being I need to take care of now and I'm scared to break it!! OMGOMG!! which thankfully I was able to hide from my wife quite well. This was followed closely by the "Hey this isn't so bad, I can do this" stage, where I started to think and believe that I am capable of doing it.

Now, out of all the stages I can recall, my least favourite was the "Everyone feel free to give the new parents advice! even if you were not asked for it" I understand people want to help, but just because you used a certain settling technique and it worked great doesn't necessarily mean it automatically applies to my baby! oh and did I ask for your opinion!"...Ahem.

OK, so I apologise for my mini-rant above, it seems there's a couple of things that I feel strongly about and writing the blog is giving an avenue to vent.

I think I've given the impression that it's been a very long and hellish couple of weeks, which to be honest is very far from the truth. The past seven weeks have been amazing. The company I work for is great, I have 10 days of paternal leave available to me on short notice, of which I used seven right after she was born, and it was probably the best thing ever having the opportunity to be with my wife and my baby 100 % right after birth. Our closest friends have been very supportive and the community midwives that visited us at home were a Godsend.

I will end on this: Being a dad and a husband give me more joy than anything else and I'm very excited about what the future holds, because right now everything is as it should be.

PS. I promise future blogs will be shorter and if you have read the entire blog, wow and thank you

~Z
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    Cailith's Avatar
    It's an amazing experience, all right, theZee. Enjoy the ride mate, it's a doozy!

    I agree with you on the unasked-for advice; we went through the same thing exactly. After trying to please everyone for a while, we wound up just going "uh-huh, yep" and then doing it our own way anyway
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    Posted 1st September 2009 at 08:24 PM by Cailith Cailith is offline
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    Ashlann's Avatar
    Shorter dad-blogs? No way!
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    Now, out of all the stages I can recall, my least favourite was the "Everyone feel free to give the new parents advice! even if you were not asked for it"
    That was definitely my least favourite as well. Human beings have been able to parent without advice since... well, ever since humans have existed. The advice comes flooding from everywhere and, as well intended as it is, it utterly does your head in.

    Enjoy every minute, brother They grow up so fast. My little baby girl turns 4 in two weeks; I don't even know how to cope with that.
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    Posted 4th September 2009 at 01:07 PM by Ashlann Ashlann is offline
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    Wayfarer's Avatar
    Onya Zee. Yep, here's some advice. People who give advice, and they've been doing it since cavemen days, Ashlann mean well. Some of it's going to piss you off because you've already got your head around something and too much info is maddening. Especially since the very very steep learning curve is not just how-to's but feelings and emotions too. Also, remember, people want to be part of your good-news-life-is-great-happy-happy-joy-joy and most of the time the only way they can get involved is to help out with words of wisdom. Shrug your shoulders, don't fight it, don't let it get to you, just enjoy with the knowledge that you have lots of family and friends who mean well. More the pity if you were all on your own with a sickly baby and no one to turn to.

    And keep up the blog
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    Posted 10th September 2009 at 11:36 AM by Wayfarer Wayfarer is offline
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    Originally Posted by Wayfarer View Comment
    Onya Zee. Yep, here's some advice. People who give advice, and they've been doing it since cavemen days, Ashlann mean well. Some of it's going to piss you off because you've already got your head around something and too much info is maddening. Especially since the very very steep learning curve is not just how-to's but feelings and emotions too. Also, remember, people want to be part of your good-news-life-is-great-happy-happy-joy-joy and most of the time the only way they can get involved is to help out with words of wisdom. Shrug your shoulders, don't fight it, don't let it get to you, just enjoy with the knowledge that you have lots of family and friends who mean well. More the pity if you were all on your own with a sickly baby and no one to turn to.

    And keep up the blog
    I hear you Way.
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    Posted 16th September 2009 at 09:16 AM by theZee theZee is offline
 

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