Yes, Thanks for that link!
As it turns out, i had been using an old version of it. I read tutorials that kept referring to options i couldn't find!
So, Docking is much easier now.... though i haven't successfully docked yet. My first attempt with the new mechjeb went well for a start. It got every thing lined up, slowly slowly using the RCS. then when everything was lined up, and about 50m apart it turned on the main engine and rammed the other part of the station!
I'm also getting an annoying error.... could be a kind of cracken... after launch, and without any time compression i get launch pad supports falling from the sky. The supports are in the same config as at launch. If they hit any of the tanks they blow up. I've lost a fair bit of fuel and the occasional Kerbal from it.
"I am a Pantera's box you do not want to open" - Mr. Furious